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From Buttoned-Up to Bodycon: Exploring the Asexual Aesthetic

I’ll end the suspense in the first sentence: there is no standard asexual aesthetic. Then, I’ll up the ante, and say that many asexuals don’t even associate sartorial concerns directly with self-identity. Nonetheless, it’s undeniable that what we put on our bodies is how we present ourselves to the world,...

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The Personal Foundations of Style Development

A recent look through some old photographs given to me by family members provided some fun nostalgia, but it also provided some interesting insights into where a lot of my tastes came from. Everyone has a different style foundation, of course, depending on the influences in their life. Some people...

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Negotiating Interview Attire Part 1: The Clothes

Even if you’re secure in the job market, at some point you’re going to have to do an interview. For me, I occasionally worry about my personal style, depending on who I’m interviewing with. Increasingly the term “business casual” has sent me into a bit of a tizzy, before remembering...

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The Simple Power of Handmade

“People can’t MAKE things!” That is a real quote, delivered to me in the most incredulous tone of voice upon learning that I had, indeed, knitted a simple scarf I was wearing. Though the speaker was a teenaged boy and it was the first time I’d ever encountered such disbelief,...

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Sleepwear Without Sexpectations: Dressing For Your Own Dreamland

The next time you shop for pajamas, take note of the descriptors for nightwear in the women’s section, where you’ll undoubtedly spot the term “intimates.” Despite the fact that I find this term to carry heteronormative, sexual overtones since it’s so gendered… I actually like it. If you remove the...

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The Many Ways of the Sweater

It’s January. For much of the Northern Hemisphere this means it’s cold, possibly snowing, and likely gray and cloudy. You might have SADS, or the cold is affecting your health. Maybe you pushed yourself through the holidays and are feeling worn out now. Maybe school is starting up again and...

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Introduction: Lily Xavier

I’ve been mulling this over since Dressing the Spectrum went live because I think that I have something important to say, or at least worthwhile. I’ll be upfront; dressing in general is an emotionally fraught experience for me. Being me, my reaction to difficult emotional experiences is to avoid them...

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Work from Home Chic

There’s a growing population of people that work remotely in the US, and probably much of the world as well. Many of us are freelancers, but some are full-time employees for various companies, by choice or necessity. Whatever the reason, there are many people who follow a different context for work...

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How I Made Up with Makeup: Empowerment through Transformation

As it goes with most things in my life that are frequently gender-coded, my relationship with makeup has always been a little weird. Over the years, I’ve gone through phases: into it, not into it, kind of into it… and so on. But the common, underlying theme through all of...

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Date Night Looks for Me, Myself, and I

  In mainstream fashion journalism, I often come across style tweak checklists, usually revolving around occasions. In theory, you dress in reaction to an event, while ideally still sporting a look that inspires confidence and is occasion-appropriate. However, there’s an event that exists right alongside standard occasions where fashion advice...

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Alternative Color Theory

Color theory, especially when it’s applied to dressing, can be complicated and highly subjective. There’s lots of things out there about what “season” you are based on your hair, skin, and eyes. There’s actual color wheel theory as taken from art. But really, you don’t need to know all that,...